You caught them in a lie, and now you’re wondering what else you don’t know.
What’s usually happening
Most kids lie because they’re afraid of getting in trouble or of disappointing you. Little ones also blur what’s real and what they wish were real. The goal isn’t just catching the lie. It’s making the truth feel safe to tell.
Try this
- 1Stay calm, so your face doesn’t make the truth feel dangerous.
- 2Give a smaller consequence when they come clean on their own.
- 3Praise honesty out loud whenever you see it.
What to say
- “I love you no matter what. I want the truth.”
- “Telling the truth is always the brave choice.”
- “Thank you for telling me. That took courage.”
Therefore, putting away lying, speak the truth, each one to his neighbor, because we are members of one another.
Inside the membership, the full lying plan shows you how to build a home where truth feels safe.
This is covered in The Discipline Overshare Guide
- 01What’s happening
- 02What should I know
- 03What do I say
- 04Mom, remember
- 05When to get help
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