The fighting starts the moment you sit down, and you feel more like a referee than a mom.
What’s usually happening
Siblings fight because they want attention, space, fairness, or control. Home is where they practice relationships. Every fight is a chance to teach them how to make it right.
Try this
- 1Separate them for a minute so everyone can calm down.
- 2Let each child tell their side without interrupting.
- 3Walk them through asking forgiveness and forgiving, then end with a hug.
What to say
- “We’ll talk when our bodies are calm.”
- “What happened? What were you feeling?”
- “In our family, we give honor.”
- “I’m sorry for ___. Will you forgive me?”
And be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving one another, just as God also forgave you in Christ.
Inside the membership, the full sibling plan shows you how to mend and restore, not just stop the fight.
This is covered in The Discipline Overshare Guide
- 01What’s happening
- 02What should I know
- 03What do I say
- 04Mom, remember
- 05When to get help
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